I think as a girl for a man to hit on you once let it go but make sure you let the guy know that you are not interested..If he does it again then tell your man because he obviously has no respect for you or his friend..And should be cut off from both of yous as soon as possible…You don’t want unnecessary drama that could have been prevented..
Heres what you guys had to say:
Cesar
“Depends on how cute the friend is, lmaoooo, and u gotta make sure it ain’t a setup’
“agree with Cesar smells like a set up if the relationship is new, but if the couple have been together for a minute then her friend is just foul lol. I am big on comminucation so I think it should be brought up- like ha baby this steak was great and your from tina asked me if i was down with OPP!!! lol”
“totally depends on the situation…I’ve been put in weird situations, and honestly, the best thing is to not overreact. I say tell the guy ur not feeling it and that ur uncomfortable, hopefully it wont happen again, if hes still trying, u need to tell ur friend… Dont let her find out thru a 3rd party that her man is hitting on u cuz shell think u… Read More were egging him on…However, if they’re just messing around, fuck teah tell her as soon as possible, better for her to know early that shes dating a jerk”
“I see I have to go in to a little more detai, which is fine :pI totally respect the put em on blast, point em out, pull the card approach. It filters your time for what is needed; good relations. I was more focused on and attending to the male ego. A perspective from a boyfriend who does business, network, etc and has a friend who reaches. From … experience, I have a couple of “thirsty” friends, but I accept who they are because I know they let animal side control reasoning. I don’t burn bridges to fast and I have had to curb by ego for letting it get the best of me. A mature women can gauge the level of Friendship/network and severity of the flirt. If it’s direct disrespect, its filter time. But if its a slickrick tip move or a sign admiration/mixed signal, why take it there when a smart girl can isolate and perhaps spin it where the friend learns something from it, progression is key ;P. Ideally a woman can keep any situation under wraps because hey, you guys run the show,”
“Well if it’s a close friend then u have to tell because that is just foul…. If it’s just a regular friend like hi and bye and maybe talk a little then u let it slide the first time but if they continue to try and hook up then u have to save your own ass and tell your boyfriend/girlfriend before they try and flip it on u and tell your boo it was the other way around and a whole big mess begins!!!!!!That’s why my motto is don’t trust anyone!!!!!! Lmao”
See what happens when I post a comment saying im Naked I get 42 responses..lol I love you guys!
July 30, 2009
Damn if I knew that all i had to do was post that I was naked to get some responses I wouldve did it a long time ago…you guys are the best Muahhz
Beverly
“Gotta love it =P”
“Este party esta interesante; Nice Meeting everyone lol”
Lol i agree with cesar, porn brings out the best of ppl.. almost like a competition for a female to get her man more focused on her the the chick on the video …
i dont mind watching porn i like it myself but once the actions starts his focus should b on me an me onlii or we hav a problem..
Perfect op to watch together and tell her how u like it. LolI have absolutley no problem with it…. U might see a position u haven’t tried in a while and why not test it out :0)
I Strongly agree with Elizabeths comment …nuff said
Cesar
“HELL FUKIN NO, LMAO”
“I would have to say it depends on the type of club girl it is. Because there are some that carry themselves like ladies and just go out for fun then there are ones who are there for bottles and dubbing on dudes . So its a case by case.”
Ambuj
“No fucking way. U can’t wife up a club chick, or a nigga that lives in the club.”
“nope. it all depends on what that person wants. if the club chick or guy wants to be wifey or hubby status it’ll hapen, if not “forget about it”.
“NOPE they only good for 1 thing..A call when they get out the club..That’s it..and that’s even nasty cuz they were dancing on ugly dudes from the BX with braids and a fake big chain and the same polo shirt that 8 guys got on and all sweaty and uknow they drunk cuz they been sipping on other ppls drinks and uknow they don’t drive and u gotta pic them up lol..nah once a good gone bad there gone 4ever..lol..sorry thinking out loud again lol”
Thur’s Topic on Facebook: Is it considered cheating on your man if you have occasional sex with woman and he’s not invited in?
July 24, 2009
Let me just say this topic caused a stir on Facebook lol…
Everyone had a different reason for there answer. I personally think its not cheating..
Why you ask???
As long as there is no emotions involved and it is strictly just sex. Not only that but its a women with another women they don’t have what a man has if you know what I mean.
Women satisfy in a more physical way.
What I mean by this is that there is more touching involved as to a mans different positions. Why is it ok as long as the man is watching or asked to join? If you are a man and you go out with your girlfriend and she ends up kissing her home girl and your ok with that then why is it not ok to take it to the next level???
If you consider sex cheating then shouldn’t kissing be cheating also?
Here’s what some other people had to say:
Omar
“ if i’m not invited can i at least get a video for later… that’s all i’m saying”
Alphonso
Gary
Christina
“Lol of course it is dear, ur giving urself to someone other than ur spouse, so yes its most def cheating.”
Abe
“Umm heck yea that’s cheating”
“if it’s no emotions involded… FUCK IT! They can fuck all them want ::sucking teeth:: lmao”
Beverly
“I said it in my post… AT ANY POINT where there is no full disclosure its cheating. And if you’re open about it and he’s “OK”, u best believe he’s doing him.”
To view the whole topic click on the link below
http://www.facebook.com/vcaraballov=feed&story_fbid=104423448756&__a=1
I think its a bad idea to have a friend go into the bedroom with you and your man.I agree with Steph just get a random chick bang her out and keep it moving lol.. Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with fooling around girl friends if that’s what your into but dont include your man.
“LOL……………..That Girl Val got some dope topics…..LOL………AHHHH 3-SUMS…They are fucking Intense……I LOVE THEM……..HMMMMMMM…Doing them w.my wifey and one of her friends is cool w.me…..It’s only sex……but it can’t be w.a chick who likes 2 act like a dude…it has 2 be w.someone who has a understanding that we are all just having fun……..if she is a straight LEZ then it won’t work cuz she will end up trying 2 wife my wifey up…lol……but if we are all chillen in the apt and one thing leads 2 another………………I‘M GETTING MY CAMERA!!!!!!!!!!LOL”Mr R
“I agree with bev, it should be outta ur system by the time u settle down,,But a 3some with best friend, all depends on the relationship u have with her…i say no but, he can watch:-)… But in the end its all about trust, if he’s gonna cheat on u, he’s gonna do either with that same chick or another..ohh and i hate girls who do it just to please their man, fake asses…..”“I thinks its ok to experiment in other sexual activity’s with your mate..But then again,,it def not be a smart idea to have a threesome with your best friend…. If it was some random chick that u can care less about its cool… Sex and friends do not mix. Just like they say,, be careful on how much info u talk with your girls on how good ur man is!! Now that saying,, if u cant reveal that info by mouth ,,then how r u going to show them physically and still trust after… Sex is a powerful thing and it def will kill your relationship with your mate and bff.. It will be hard for u to trust them both alone,, u will always think they r having fun without u..and most likely they r… hey,,have fun with your mate,, fuck a army if u guys want,, just dont fuck too close to home!!”“Ok here it goes….. LolI think it is ok if and only if your girlfriend came up with the idea and wants to do it… But if the guy comes up with the idea u have to think twice because he is already thinking about hitting up your bff…
Then there is also what happens after it’s done…. Will anyone feel awkward??? Things u need to consider b4 getting a nut off and fucking up a relationship”
“OMG, poor Randy! Giving a very good POV and still getting ballbusted……..3somes with a bff? bad idea if ur in a serious relationship, but if its just for shits & giggles go ahead and have ur fun”
“i love trizzys but i think wifys true bff might be od-ing on the relationships boundaries. you really have to have have a strong if not semi twisted emotional character to pull it off without penalty
I remember my first horror date..I had to be around twenty one at the time. The guy picked me up with his car smelling like weed he obviously just smoked and every time I would ask him something I got a response 2 minutes later.
He was so high that he forgot the address to the place he wanted to take me to, my first instinct was to tell this guy to drop me off at the corner and I take cab home but I had just stopped dating a guy that I really liked so I decided to just go with it. So I tell him about Gonzalez & Gonzalez its a Mexican restaurant with great food and music. We get there and he is stuffing his face with nachos (Now im regretting not ditching this asshole earlier. )
I order more then what I could eat,I told him I had to take a important phone call but I secretly go to the waiter and tell him to pack my food to go and ask him if he could waive me down when it was done so that my horror date wouldn’t see. I go back to the table and I start chugging my greygoose and crane berry drink waiting for my food to be done, trying to focuse on the good salsa music that was playing. Can you believe this guy doesn’t say more then twenty words to me the whole night and has the nerve to try and kiss me with nacho residue all over his mouth.Grhhhh
Anyway so the waiter gives me the ok that the food is ready I tell horror date I have to use the bathroom. I grab my take out and tell the waiter to bill my date. I called my home girl and took a cab to her house and we enjoyed our free meal.I guess it payed off at the end lol
Here is what some of you guys had to say on your horror date:
“shorty tried to have me run through red lights. blah”
Many people run into this situation often. When they are stuck between whats the right thing to do and what the heart feels.
I was surprised to see how many people were so quick to say no. I personally have never been in a situation like this but I couldn’t say for sure if I would just get out of the relationship.I say this only because when emotions are involved your not yourself who knows what you would do. Its easy for someone to just come out and say no when they are not in love…But what happens when you fall in deep?
My friend Omar gave a great explanation
“okay i’ve thought about this one in the past so if you love the person and you want to remain with them then i say work things out sometimes we get so comfortable in the relationship that we neglect or fail to do what we’re supposed to, and as long as the other person says nothing we continue being jerks…but its only at the thought of loosing them that we take a step back and realize damn i fucked up… and try and make things better… cheating to cheat is fucked up and i don’t forgive that but if u pushed the person to that then work things out if u want to if not call it quits and try and appreciate the next person a little better.“
Ms Bee caught my attention when she said
“1… i honestly would have 2 say if i stopped doing what i was suppose 2 b doing as a woman there was a reason.. so depending on how i felt about that person would depend on the future if i honestly loved them i would try 2 work it our but bin the woman that i am i am evil & spiteful so i would prob get even lol”
I honestly feel that I would do the same thing lol..I guess there is a lot of spiteful women out there . @Beverly @Jennifer @Stephanie @Melissa
There is no right or wrong answer every relationship is different.
For everyone who responded to my post Thank you, your opinions are very helpful
And guys to you the most! For giving us the guys point of view
@Alphonso @Garrick @ Mr R @ Omar
